Episode 23: Burying your Child: A Mother’s Story.

Burying your Child: A Mother’s Story.
The victims left behind.

In what is probably our most compelling episode to date, Ann and Dan have a conversation with their guest Marie, a native New Orleanian whose son was tragically murdered in late 2016.

Marie’s son was barely 20 years old when he was shot and killed. Sadly this type of story is not at all uncommon in New Orleans. New Orleans is one of the deadliest cities in the US, which ranked #4 behind St. Louis, Baltimore, and Detroit in murders per capita in 2016. It’s a little known secret that New Orleans is one of the most violent cities in the US, more than doubling Chicago’s murder rate per capita.

Marie takes us on an emotional rollercoaster in detailing her son’s life, his upbringing, and troubled (in some senses typical) past. He was shot on 3 separate occasions with the 3rd time ending his life. She shares that she had never lost a close family member and had no idea what to do after the doctor notified her that he did not make it through surgery. The hospital provided no counseling or guidance as to what her next steps should’ve been. Essentially Marie had to figure out what to do on her own (with the help of friends and family). When she arrived at the hospital she found the waiting room to be packed with people from the neighborhood, most of whom she didn’t know. After it was announced that her son didn’t make it, the crowd immediately left. It was later discovered that the crowd’s intent was to exploit her son’s death on social media… for likes. Before Marie could contact her other children to notify them of their brother’s passing, they already found out from Facebook.

We delve into how social media is ruining society by turning someone else’s reality into a virtual reality. Most kids today struggle with picking up on social cues, have the inability to hold a conversation, and are completely detached from each other as humans.

Victim’s family services and life after the death of a loved one.
Marie tried to cope on her own but it proved to be a task that was too tough to handle. She sought out support groups, counseling, and reading material to name a few things. One of things Marie wants people to walk away with is, based on her experience, don’t let anyone else to tell you how to grieve or deal with a loss. Each individual grieves differently at different times.

Lastly Marie explains how she was able to receive news coverage on multiple occasions whereas most cases that aren’t high-profile seldom receive any coverage. We also take a look at Crime Stoppers and some of the services that they offer.

Recommended Reading Material: Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child by Ellen Mitchell

Ask an Attorney:
Marie in New Orleans – Does the District Attorney’s office consider their win/loss ratio when determining whether or not to press charges?