Episode 32: Catfish Anyone?


This week Ann, Becky, and Dan are joined by guests, Ariel, DJ Ayce, and Nakia to discuss catfishing.

We start the discussion with Ariel who has never personally experienced catfishing but would like to understand how people find themselves in the position to be a victim. Ariel shares that she prefers traditional dating methods and doesn’t necessarily trust online dating.

DJ Ayce had a minor incident where a woman trying to catfish him in a BET chatroom… back when there was a BET chatroom??? He shares what happened in this particular incident and how he would react today if he learned he had been catfished.

We briefly revisit Dan’s comments about dating initially being a matter of sexual attraction. Ariel and DJ Ayce both agree with his assessment.

Nakia joins us later in the show to describe her experiences being both catfished and then becoming a catfisher in AOL chatrooms for entertainment purposes. When asked how she felt about potentially harming at least two people by using one person’s photos, and lying to another about who she was, she explained that she didn’t feel any type of way.

Is Catfishing illegal?
Is there any personal liability?
Are the dating apps/social media sites responsible in any way?
Would the sites be liable if a crime were committed while in the commission catfishing? (rape, stalking, assault, etc…). 

Ask an Attorney:

Shay in Texas.
I’m a dancer and someone I used to work with at a club is spreading lies about me on Facebook and Instagram and I think it’s stopping me from getting a job. I can’t see the post because she has me blocked and so does her group of friends who keep reposting these lies. 2 of my friends screenshotted the post and showed me what they’re saying. They say I’m on all kind of drugs and got caught stealing business from the club by fucking dudes for money in the parking lot. Every reputable club owner is turning me away in my city and I never had this problem in the 4 years I been dancing. What can I do to get them to stop spreading these lies? Or what can I do to get them back legally?

This week’s shoutout goes to AJ over at What We Gone Do Podcast. AJ is a solo host who is an inspirational realist who young (and old) black men can definitely benefit from listening to. Check him out on Twitter @WhatWeGoneDoPod.

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